Sexual Assault
 
What if I Have Been Sexually Assaulted?
How to Help a Friend who has been Sexually Assaulted
Additional Safety Strategies
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1. First, it’s important to get to a place where you feel safe, ideally with friends, family, or others you can trust. Other people can be a big support and assist you in getting the help you need.

2. Rape survivors may at some point wish to prosecute the perpetrator, and it is more difficult to gather evidence if you have showered, changed clothes, or combed your hair. Although it may be emotionally difficult not to shower immediately, it’s wise to consider how you might feel later.

3. It’s important to seek medical attention. Medical help is important to help you be sure that you are physically OK, to gather evidence should you want to report the crime, and to protect you from sexually transmitted infections and/or pregnancy.

At Rose Hill, Fordham University Emergency Medical Service (FEUMS) is available 24/7 and can be contacted by calling Security at 718-817-2222.
At Lincoln Center, ambulance services are provided by FASTcare, and can be reached by calling Security at 212-930-8888.
At the Westchester campus, ambulance services can be secured by calling Security at 914-376-3333.

4. Sexual assault is a crime and is not tolerated by the university. You can report the assault, in person, by phone, or online, to a campus administrator or to Health Services. They will provide assistance and helpful information.

Health Services:
Rose Hill: 718-817-4160

Lincoln Center: 212-636-7160
Office of the Dean of Students:
Rose Hill: 718-817-4755
Lincoln Center: 212-636-6250
Office of the Director of Residential Life
Rose Hill: 718-817-3080

Lincoln Center: 212-636-7100
To report the assault to the New York City police:
48 Precinct (Rose Hill) 718-299-3900
20th Precinct (Lincoln Center): 212-580-6411

5. Counseling can help you cope. Many survivors experience acute stress after the assault. Survivors also sometimes blame themselves or feel ashamed, angry or confused. Many find it helpful to talk in a supportive, confidential context.
Counseling and Psychological Services:
Rose Hill: 718-817-3725
Lincoln Center: 212-636-6225
Westchester: 914-367-3733

24/7 Confidential hotlines:
RAPE Crisis Hotline: 914-345-9111
Safe Horizon’s Rape/Sexual Assault and Incest Hotline: 212-227-3000


How to Help a Friend Who Has Been Sexually Assaulted

 
Ways to help the survivor:
• Immediately after an assault, encourage your friend to seek medical attention.
• Let the person be in control of her/his own decisions. Support these decisions.
• Tell her/him—and keep telling her/him—that the assault was not her/his fault.
• Tell her/him that no matter what she/he did when the assault happened,
she/he acted in the best manner she/he could.
• Ask the survivor how she/he wants to be treated, and be mindful of anything that may violate her/his personal space.
• Be a good listener. Be non-judgmental and non-blaming.
• Assist her/him in getting the help she/he wants and needs.
• Realize you, too, have been affected, and seek support/counseling if necessary.
A few things NOT to do:
• Don't force your friend to talk about the assault.
• Don't give advice or tell your friend what to do.
• Don't tell her/him what you would have done or suggest what your friend might have done differently.
• Don't spread gossip to friends about what happened.
• Don't expect your friend to "get back to normal" right away.
• Don't threaten to, or attempt to, seek revenge.

Walking off Campus:
1. Be aware of what is going on around you. Stay alert to your surroundings.
2. Walk with confidence. Hold your head up and shoulders straight.
3. At night, stick to well-lighted, populated areas and walk withanother person.Avoid walking alone.
4. If you suspect that you are being followed, try to get to a place where there are other people as soon as possible. If you choose to run, run as fast as you are able and scream to attract attention or summon help.
5. Follow your instincts. If you sense that you may be at risk or in danger, try to get out of the situation.
Safety strategies for Dating:
1. Communicate your wishes and expectations with your date.
2. Know where you are going, and speak up if you are uncomfortable with the plans.
3. Make sure that someone else knows where you are going.
4. Most date rape involves alcohol. Be aware that alcohol and other drugs can alter your own and others’ thinking and behavior.
5. DON'T have sex because you feel guilty or feel that you owe the other person something.
When you're at a party:
1. Talk with your friends beforehand about how long you will stay, and what to do if you get separated
2. Stay with a group of friends and people you know rather than going off by yourself, especially with someone you don't know
3. If you leave the party, tell someone you know where you are going (preferably one of the people you came with)
4. DON'T go anywhere with a person you don’t know well.
5. DON'T let anyone else make decisions for you about sexual contact or how much you drink.

What to do if someone tries to force sexual activity on you:
1. Try to stay CALM and THINK.
2. Say "NO" forcefully. Do not smile; do not act friendly or polite.
3. Say something like "STOP IT. THIS IS RAPE." This might shock the rapist into stopping.
4. Assess the situation. Figure out if you can escape. Are there many other people around?
5. Look for an escape route. If you can figure out a way to distract the person, you can sometimes escape.
6. Act quickly, if possible. The longer you stay in the situation, the fewer your options.
7. Ask yourself if it is safe to resist. This is a critical question. Women who fight back initially, who hit and scream, have a much higher chance of avoiding the completion of an assault than women who plead or try to talk their way out of the situation
 

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